Boy Scout family cookout/campout is this Friday. I wrote earlier stating DH is on second shift and cannot take him. It is technically BM?s week. BM never really gave a clear answer if she was going to take son herself. DH called her up and suggested that maybe son can go with another father and she was all for it. Last night I made all arrangements with good friends of ours. DH called her and she was fine with everything. Friends would pick him up, drive 40 minutes to campsite; he could stay in their tent, and bring home early Sat. morning. I also talked with another friend who was not staying over just in case SS got a little spooked about staying over (he is only 6) if he would bring SS back to Mom?s afterward. Forward all this information to BM in an email and she was OK with all.
Well friends, it was a peaceful few weeks, but it's over. Drama reared it's ugly head again. DK is in a state of meltdown. Her Brother is moving out this week. He called us last night to say he has had it with his sister and the way she is "neglecting" the girls. (yeah, this is the same guy that demanded a month ago for BF to admit he abused the girls). He said it's time for us to take custody of them or at least SD9 & SD12. He told us alot of things that made our heads spin. I'm still trying to comprehend it all.
My husband has primary custody of his 2 girls (10 & 6)...I've blogged before about our situation. Well, we were on a weekend trip and instead of waiting for us she forged his name, got some dumb*ss to notorize the forgery and submitted paperwork to get passports for the kids. Anyone dealt with this type situation? She booked the 2 week out of town trip before asking permission, DH was just going to "let her" until he found out his kids are scared to travel with her to somewhere foreign. Also, on her weekends they never bathe, and we found out they are scared at her place because so many people "crash" at her apt. They don't have a bedroom anymore and both have to sleep in her bed. But our lawyer says it's hard to take away what little custody she has (EOW Thurs-Mon)...
STBX is going at the end of June. THANK GOD. I cannot take it anymore. I just want him O U T. It's nuts but with a firm date in sight I can accept that it will be another 5 weeks or so. Especially as he has found a place already!
If I hear that phrase one more time I'm going to puke! Quick scenario:
Oldest SD (20) is incarcerated. Will be out soon but first wants her "family" to attend her GED graduation. I am not invited. Hubby asked her to put me on list, she said No...she hung up on him "thinking" he wasn't going unless I was able to go as well. In any case we decided He absolutely SHOULD go regardless. I'll suck it up and be understanding...However, now she sent him a letter....very sincere in some areas, apologetic for the past, but totally manipulative laced with maybe making him feel guilty. ("I'm sorry, I love you, I miss our old family, I'm sorry, I like your wife...sorry if I hurt her feelings") But, basically the message of the letter is very clear cut. It's an addict's attempt to get what she wants...Her dad to come to graduation with the mom and siblings, without me. If she meant what she said, that she "liked" me...why am I not still invited????
Can someone please pinch me? I just don't understand it. But, we pulled out the three, maybe it's four, inch thick file folder of mediation orders and court 'stuff' and headed off to our attorney this morning. The attorney wrote up the new Stipulation regarding zero CS for either party and DH getting tax exemption every year. I also printed the IRS tax form, and have that all ready for BM to sign.
so today is the day that I my husband and are were officially granted guardianship of oldest SD, she isn't biologically my husband's but he raised her. I forced the issue to get it established legally since we were ran into a shoplifting arrest and a runaway situation.
People say a lot of stuff when they are upset, and I WAS very, very upset, but along with being upset, I also blew things out of proportion. What is unacceptable to one person is fine with another person. I did have my breaking point and we dealt with it accordingly and have laid down some ground rules, but if I hadn't said anything about it before I get angry, he shouldn't have to read my mind. He also said he would never have her stay as long as she was staying again, but because she's so unstable there is NOTHING we can do about it. And it was 2 months negotiation about the -prenup- -- on every other level we agree just about 100%, from who does what in the house to how the kids should be disciplined. He backs me up every step of the way and we very very rarely don't present a united front when it comes to the kids.
So, I have tried to talk to him and it kind of worked, but kind of didnt. He said he feels guilty for putting his children in this kind of situation! I mean shit! GUILTY.. thanks alot buddy!
I took everyone's advice and told him how I felt, wrote it down... thought about what outcome(s) would help etc. That helped but he didnt really get it. I mean the sincerity was there.. but like you said.. he handed his balls to the ex for the most part!
Well as most of you know DH and I were being investigaed for abuse and neglat of my boys well I recivied letters from CPS today stating that the alligations were unfounded and the boys are in a safe home. What great news to hear on our one week wedding aniversary.(yeah I know it is corny it is just a week but what a great week it has been)
I am visiting the Bay Area for the first time this weekend (5/18/07). I have been looking for a place to leave my car for 4 or 5 days, and it seems that the long-term parking at the BART stations are the best deal at just $5 dollars-a-day compared to $28 at my hotel. So, what do you guys think is the safest station for long term parking?? I need to make reservations ASAP, so I would greatly appreciate any comments or advice anyone has to share. Thanks so much.
Well DH is planning a camping trip with SS this weekend. But because it's tent camping, the baby and I can't come (it will be too cold) Last weekend, they went on an all day fishing trip. I'm just feeling really left out.
I don't know where to even start, My 10 year-old step-sonjust got expelled from school. Now that he is expelled his mother wants us to keep him, for a while. He is in the third grade for the second time around.
This isn't really step parent related, but I am so upset and crying. I needed somewhere to vent. My DH's family hates me, but loves his ex. These people have been nothing but ugly to him his entire life.
There are many problems with BART, some are patron related and some are employee related.
Employee Reated problems:
1). Some Agents are rude, over bearing and have no business working with the public, try dealing with the agents at Bay Point, Concord, and Del Norte, on any given day, they are by far the worst, mean spirited people, I have ever had to deal with!
Solution: It is a given, they are union, so getting rid of them is next to impossible, but there must be a system of review and evaluation. Most people, will deal with the cost of the ride, but most will not deal with rude, mean employees, who are not helpful.
There should be a system in place to reward the outstanding employees and a better system of getting rid of the dead weight.
2. Better police presence. I understand police have a lot to do and it is a difficult job, but they need to be more visible on the trains and in the stations. There are no if's, and's, or but's about it. I am not sure what the solution is, maybe an officer on the list can help me out on this one.
3.The trains are a mess, I mean a fucking mess!
agents need the authority to enforce, the no eatting and drinking rule.
Solution: The first step in the right direction is, agents will no longer allow coffee into the stations, period! No more starbucks, Unless it is in a spill proof cup! This is at the very least a step in the right direction. Going back to better police presence, I feel this would naturally, cut down on the whole food issue.
4. People without permits parking in the permit area, should not be just a ticket, but should result in towing. I pay for a permit and when, I can't park someone should get more than a 25 dollar ticket, consider I pay 64 dollars a month for parking.
5. people who do not pay their fare. I know fare skippers are out there and I understand, it is not a priority with management.
Solution: Before BART can raise it fares, I believe they should be good stwards of what they do have, up and util BART makes fare evasion a piority, they should not ask to raise the fares!
Elavators, should be like atm doors and not allow access without a valid ticket--yes, I know there are some problems with this, such as more than one person entering the elvator with one ticket, but it is a step in the right direction. Going back to better police presence, I think would help solve this issue.
6. Bums asking for money by the ticket machines. I have to tell you, I hate it when I am rushing to work and I need to buy a ticket and some bum is trying to hit me for a a little cash! speaking of bums, what is up with the bum, who LIVES in the Concord BART station? One of the agents told me his name is Dave, and he does not cause any problems, so he gets to stay. WTF, nothing like parking you car, next to bum sleeping in the parking area!
Solution: Not really sure?? Free speech and all.
7.Ticket exchanges. Nothing I hate worst then to have to exchange a ticket and they are difficult to get too and have hours that don't work for a lot of people! I know agents can send them in for you--unless you ask the lazy agent doing the week, who always seems to be out of forms or too busy reading her Bible (Yes, I am talking about the lazy agent at Concord), everytime I see her she is reading her Bible and not doing her Job, how and why she gets away with this is beyond me.
Solution: there needs to be more ticket exchange locations. Maybe one every four stations or one per line or sometime, I should not have to go to Berkely or the city to exchange a ticket.
Well, I am done with my Rant! I like BART, but there needs to be some improvements, that is the way, I see it.
Heimdal
If you aren't supposed to eat or drink on BART why do the ticket agents let people walk in carrying a cup of coffee? I see it all the time. With the fines they'd be able to finally clean the filthy trains!
Well, I heard from BM today, even though it is a direct violation of the court order. She called in lieu of her attorney b/c said attroney is "out sick." We had been leaving messages for attorney to expain some things to us and to send the documents for our attorney to look over before we sign. Attorney must have told her client (BM) and this is why she she is calling and what she says
I think it is so funny when the parents who do not have custody think they run the show. I have been watching this site for a while and read many posts and comments. I have been dealing with my stepchilds BM for a while and she thinks she runs the show.
Why does BM look for things to be wrong with the children? Or in this case, one of the children. SS is 9 years old and has struggled in the past with a learning disability. He goes to a language therapist and really is functioning above average on grade level. We all work with him at home. At least we do in my home. I have done so much research on his impairment and found fun summer therapy options, which led to the one I think we will be going with. While BM does nothing like that. She uses opportunities to meet with the teachers and therapists as a way to bitch about how her son didn?t get enough rewards at school. I am afraid that the teachers are even beginning to dread my husband, who is not that way at all. Sorry about the tangent. More to the point, SS had been talking about the next grade math and how it?s going to be hard. Seems a little normal, right? His teacher told them what they will learn next year, and he?s talking about it. He hasn?t said anything to indicate he will fail, etc. But sure enough, BM starts in about how much he?s worrying about next year already. I have had it with this doom and gloom bs.
HI EVERYONE. I JUST STARTED A NEW ACCOUNT TODAY. I HAVE BEEN READING ENTRY'S FOR A WHILE AND JUST DECIDED TO START MY OWN. I WANT EVERYONE TO KNOW THAT THIS WEBSITE HAS HELPED ME TREMENDOUSLY. I THINK IT'S JUST THE FACT OF KNOWING THAT I AM NOT ALONE AND THAT THERE ARE ALOT OF PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT GO THRU THE SAME MESS THAT I DO.
How many of you told me that BM's nicey-nice attitude was just an act? Those of you that did can pat yourselves on the back because you were absolutely right. A few days ago, BF's attorney went to court to represent him against her lawsuit for contempt of court over the child support arrears. That morning, as BM was on her way to court, she decided to park her car in front of BF's store and call him repeatedly until he finally answered. She demanded money from him for a trip that SS is going on, gas, lunch money, and some other reasons. BF told her that he just gave her $1000 and she just borrowed $75 out of SS's piggy bank, so if she was blowing her money and broke already that wasn't his problem because he was NOT giving her any money that didn't come directly from his CS payments. She tried to guilt trip him into giving the money because if he didn't, SS wouldn't get to go on this school trip. BF said considering all the money SS and BF have both given her, if she is so irresponsible that she needs to beg for $38 then she can tell SS exactly why he's not going.
Today I am crushed, I never thought being married I would feel so alone...I am at the end of my rope...My hubby and I have been together 4 yrs married 1 and I have to say things have just gotten worst with time the past 2 months have been hell we have done nothing but argue about everything mostly crap with bm and sd of course and I am finally giving up on the fight I have nothing left to fight with and if I don't do something my marriage Im affraid will end...
Yes, BM has been avoiding therapy ever since last month when the Family Based Therapy team said that they wanted to start meeting with BM, BF and SD all together. She said that SD's schedule was just "really busy". The therapists just think BM's avoiding facing the music. They met at the FBT office instead of in the home. I guess they want it to be on neutral territory from now on? Here's a brief (ok, long!) synopsis from BF.
My fiancee has been divorced almost 3 years yet the ex always finds way to still tell him what to do when she had her baby over a year and a half ago ( with another man ) she kept not picking up the girls on their designated times so my fiancee was driving them back home for her yesterday it was raining and she called her daughters cell phone to say that she was not going to get the girls because she did not want to take her 1/1/2 year old girl out in the rain she told her daughter tell your father to bring you home im not bringing the baby out in the rain Up jumped my fiancee yet again kissing her butt doing for her I told him you are not married that is not your child you have NO MORE obligations to her tell her that am I wrong ?
Summary of where we are: SS13 ran away almost 2 weeks ago. BB told him she couldn't handle him and he had to come live with his dad. Now, BB says she wants him back at the end of the school year. SS is failing school and has behavior issues. YES, we want him. We have always wanted him! BM has used SS as a means to control DH and I. She is now using us to try to control him! We don't want to be used as a punishment, but we will never, ever turn down time with him. He's having a lot of problems. He's just a kid. He can make me frustrated and angry, but I love him. I would give my right arm to get him on a decent path.
I just saw a blurb on the tv screen in my office elevator. It said that a study was done that shows people that think life is unfair are 55% more likely to have a heart attack than those who think life is fair. it did not cite sources.
so if you think bart prices are unfair, it really doesn't matter. you're probably going to die young anyway, so you won't need to save money for retirement...
As I read through the complaints of not enough trains or waked out inefficiencies on BART, I always look at Europe and all of their public rapid transit systems and gleam with envy. Yes, we all know that BART can be a pain in the ass at times, and yes, it can be very inefficient, but the root of the problem is so, so much deeper. What is the problem you ask? Suburbia. We live in a country in which the government subsidizes the living hell out of oil and the whole project of suburbia, yet pays little attention to good urban planning, high-density living, mixed-use living arrangements, and efficient public transportation. Why in God's name do you think we're in the Middle East? Low-density living (suburbia) doesn't makes public transportation a good option. Low-density living calls for the automobile. If you have traveled outside of this country, you'll know exactly what I am talking about - especially if you've traveled to Europe. There aren't many train stations in Europe with ugly, enormous parking structures next to them. Do a Google Image search of the Paris rapid transit system map, and it looks like a spider web. Now compare that map with the BART map. It is pathetic. BART is primarily there for the suburbanite who drives from their cartoon of a country house to the station to commute into the city for work. That's it - nothing else. Because of this, there is also a lower demand on public transit because so many people prefer to be isolated in their tin can cars, trucks, and SUVs and so the priorities of this country shift from effectively subsidizing public transit to subsidizing Exxon. What did you expect, honestly? Also, with the coming of global peak oil, this country is officially screwed! If you don't know what I'm talking about, I don't blame you. It is never talked about in our media because they're all funded by big oil and car companies. Do a little research of your own and read The Long Emergency by James Howard Kunstler. He'll tell you how the United States is doing in regards to transportation and energy. Oh, and don't forget to watch the documentary End of Suburbia. It's even on YouTube for free.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qHr8OzaloLM
"Ok, so I totally don't usually don't post here but I bet this guy who I totally have a crush on will randonly read this post out of all the billions of posts on the Internet and then we will talk a little through email and maybe meet in some public place and he will be as amazing as I make him out to be but I will still have to play a little "hard to get" so that he knows I have other options and doesn't take advantage of me but he would never do that because he's so amazing...
Ok, so he rides on the same train as me in the mornings, but I never see him in the evening! Weird, huh? He gets on at Ashby, but never seems to get off there. I stick around sometimes when I come home from work, to see if he'll show, but he NEVER does! Not like I'm creepy or something, waiting for him, HAHAHAHAHAHA. Anyway, he is always wearing his headphones. I bet he likes music, which is so cool because I like music too. I wonder if he likes Fergie too. That would be especially weird because I like fergie.
He wears these shirts with stuff on them, and cool shoes. But sometimes he doesn't wear a shirt, but like a button shirt. I guess he has a job. I want a job because sometimes I feel like I have nothing better to do than dream about this hunk of a man! That's OK though because he's so HOT!
This one time i saw him walking up to me and i was like 'OMG I need to say sunthing clever' so I was like 'Your hot,' (you know just like Paris Hilton *wink*) and he was like 'I am BARTBatman.'"
-BARTBatman
PS: PPID911, if you want to meet up some time, I'd love to have a cup of coffee with you. You sound like a very clever, informed, and (I bet) cute cop.
That parking guy who works at macarthur and rockridge sometimes is just dreamy. He is always very nice, fun, and polite. Not to mention professional and fair. He is just all around a nice guy.
He is blond, about 6'2, 170lbs of pure muscle. I think his name is, Something Potter. My gosh, he is attractive and good at what he does.
Way to go Mr. Potter!
This afternoon I was on (and still am on) a Pittsburg/Bay Point train and I was sitting in the last car. When the car started filling up and Powell Station these 4 girls got onto the train and moved to the front (of the last car) and sat down. A few minutes later they were all sitting on top of the seat backs with there feet all over the seats. The gentlemen sittng across from them very politley asked them to sit in the seats and to stop soiling them. They were very rude back asking why they shuould listen to him etc. After a couple of minutes of being very patient and these 4 girls soiling the seats and being very noisy and stubborn he was like ok, then ill call bart police. They got down right away and behaved rather well except for singing the whole way. If only more people stood up to people who are not necesarily doing something illegal but doing something that make our trains dirtyer and less pleasnt to ride.
Today I observed several things that I feel should be cleared up. Please feel free to add to this list - if your contribution is SERIOUS and THOUGHTFUL, not trolling or stupid.
Escalator Etiquette
1. ESCALATORS ARE FOR MOVING (Escalating) YOU - NOT TO SPEED UP YOUR PACE. BART escalators are not moving walkways. If for whatever reason you wish to get to the station quicker, take the stairs. All BART entrances have stairs. We've been through this before - don't push and shove people so that you can put some pep in your step. People shouldn't walk/run/push/shove/ask others to move. This is a safety issue as well as a courtesy issue. If you hear your train coming into the station, running up the escalator is not the answer. Leaving your house 5 minutes earlier is. People are injured routinely when they are pushed or tripped by these "escalator walkers." A senior citizen was recently severely injured this way. Those walking/pushing can be sued for their negligence.
2. NO BIKES ON THE ESCALATORS! This is also a safety issue. It doesn't matter if it is a folding bike - bikes are bikes. If you carry your bike on the escalator, you are subject to a $250 fine. You may think you have a grip on it, but escalators can suddenly stop, you can lose your grip when one of the "escalator walkers" shoves you aside, etc. I can and regularly do fine people for this. You can lose grip and the bike will karine down the escalator taking out any and everyone in its path. USE THE ELEVATOR OR STAIRS. And to that lady who was fined today, don't blame me for it - YOU EARNED THAT CITATION.
3. NO STROLLERS ALLOWED ON THE ESCALATOR. This too is a safety issue, for all the reasons bikes are not allowed, plus the safety of the baby or whatever else might be in your stroller. This is a state law and violators are subject to citation.
Ettiquite for talking to Station Agents or BART Employees
1. Don't come up to Station Agents talking on your cell phone. It's incredibly rude. I applaud the Agents who refuse to help passengers until they hang up. If an agent juggled a cellphone conversation and assisting you at the same time, you'd be running down to BART headquarters trying to get them fired. Station Agents, BART Police, maintence, and System Services are ALL human and deserve to be treated as such.
2. Shoving a ticket in a Station Agent's face isn't the way to get something done. Aside from being rude, they have no idea what you want or need.
3. SMILE. MAKE EYE CONTACT. Hell, even ask them how they are doing. Again, Agents are human. If you're polite, it might even help you out some day. If your ticket malfunctions or misreads, the agent will remember that you are nice and might even give you the "hook up." Besides, many complain that agents aren't nice. Why not smile and say hi? Your small act might make their whole day better.
4. It is NOT the fault of Station Agents if you miss your train. They are not Train Operators. They are not responsible if you left the house late, got caught in traffic, or just lolligagged. Don't get loud with them. Take responsibility.
BART Police Etiquette Etiquette While at the Stations
1. NO FOOD OR DRINK! This is not only disgusting, but messy and illegal. Violators are subject to fine.
2. Don't form lines at the black tiles. This obstructs passengers off-boarding trains.
3. Report any illegal or suspicious activities to the Station Agent or 911.
4. If someone looks confused or disoriented (new to BART), help them out! Be kind and polite. BART... Bay Area Rides Together. C'mon guys! Be neighborly and help others and not just yourselves once in a while. An ounce of kindness reaps pounds of rewards. (Yeah, I coined that!)
5. If you MUST talk on your phone, do it quietly.
6. No smoking - EVEN ON OUTDOOR PLATFORMS. It is illegal and a health risk to everyone. Even outdoors. Everywhere on the platform. EVERYWHERE. EVEN OUT DOORS. EVEN ON THE END OF THE PLATFORM. EVERYWHERE!
Etiquette While Riding BART Trains
1. NO FOOD OR DRINK! BART is full of germs. Hundreds of thousands of people a day packed into tiny cars. You might get sick! You are also subject to citation. Plus, eating often causes messes. I watched another Officer cite a young woman on Monday who was stuffing her face with a burrito and dropping it ALL OVER the platform. I hope she enjoyed her $175 burrito.
2. No one wants to hear you complain about your baby's daddy. No one wants to hear about the portfolio earnings being down slightly this quarter. No one wants to hear about Aunt Edna. Keep your cellphone conversations to a minimum, and if you do talk on the phone, do it quietly.
3. Pay ATTENTION to the ADA seating laws. Giving up your seat to a senior or disabled person isn't just common courtesy - it's the law!
4. Don't put bags on seats. Don't take up more than one seat. If someone wants to sit down, you need to let them. They are entitled to a seat, and unless you purchased another ticket for your bag, you need to move that as well. Not an option.
5. No feet on seats. It's gross. The seats are dirty enough. You don't need to dirty them further with your shoes. Or to all those out there who look at it this way: Don't dirty up your shoes with the BART seats.
6. Report any safety issues, hazards, disruptive persons, or violations of law or ordinance to the Train Operator (via intercoms located and the ends of all cars) or 911. You are our eyes and ears when on BART.
Anything else?
Please feel free to add a THOUGHTFUL and INTELLIGENT reply! If we could keep trolling to a minimum, it would be appreciated.
Also if you post a reply, please let us know where you're coming from. (ie: Are you an employee? Patron? Troll?)
I am a BART Police Officer. I am looking forward to all of your contributions.
The question is: how do we get these system fixed?
Does it require a legislator? A lawyer? There are enough people complaining about the same issues that something can be done, but what?
3 Barts going in the opposite direction AWAY from the city, before one goes into the city. During **RUSH HOUR**. Before it gets delayed.
There are some very big problems with the system.
During !RUSH HOUR!, you will see 3 barts running away from the city before you see one that goes into the city. This is completely unacceptable.
The bart that finally goes into the city is 20 minutes late, and it's filled to the brim with people trying to get to work.
If the Bay Area doesn't want to deal with Los Angeles' traffic problems and reputation for being dysfunctional - this problem really needs to be addressed.
This doesn't apply to the issue that "San Mateo doesn't want Barts to run through it" because they're going south through San Mateo to get to the airport. Not in the direction that we all need to go.
And the Maintennance problems should not be an excuse. The money made with the overpriced parking and riding tickets should be enough to eliminate the maintennance problems. We're not here to find blame with the workers, we really need to have the problem fixed. I'd rather not add to the traffic congestion, but I may need to in order to be reliable to my employer.
What is up with all the dirty parking lots? I see garbage, bottles, broken windshield glass all over the place. Damn BART just don't care anymore!
Today at Rockridge bart station parking both lots before 10am,i
a permit holder and i can not find a parking space before 10am,
i saw a bart light blue shirt officer white male did not give
any tickets to all the peoples no permits,at rockridge station,
today 5-7-07 the light blue shirt officer went to get coffee,
instead issues tickets.I will call Jim Even and the sgt of bart
police office.
Going to meet friends at Jade Dragon Restaurant in Daly City.
Do you know how far that is from Daly City BART station?
Are there cabs waiting outside the station or do you have to call one? If so, which one?
Thanks so much for your help
I was catching a flight out of SFO about 10 PM. Upon arrival to the airport the driver made his announcement for terminal, shuttle, car rental, & airtrain announcements. The voice was incredibly clear, powerful, yet calm & downright seductive. After the doors opened I proceeded toward the front of the train to see the driver. He was tall, asian, & freakin hot, not what I had expected. Does anyone know who he is & whether he's single?
Who were the BART Cops dressed in all blue jumpsuits at Fruitvale station this afternoon?
Hi,
As a BART employee, I want to thank you for riding. Sorry for the times things don't go so well, but we try to do right by you every day. It's just that some things are out of our control, like the breakdowns, medical emergencies, switching problems and such. At any rate, you pay my bills, and you're doing good for the environment, so thanks again.
I was at the Rockridge station yesterday ready to board a Montgomery train to MacArthur (on routine patrol). I was standing on the platform in line waiting for our train talking to a young man (17 yrs old), whom I loosely know, when this commuter woman comes about and bashes right into my little friend's elbow. She doesn't excuse herself or even make eye contact with my buddy.
He refrains himself from saying anything. Very mature of him. As the train pulls into the station, we head for different cars (I went to the one in front of him). As I am boarding the train, the elbow-smasher woman cuts right in front of everyone in line and makes a beeline for the only open seat. As the train is pulling out, the young man moves cars and seeks out the woman. He tells her that he did not appreciate her smashing into him. She tells him that he was "actually" in her way and she excused herself. I interject and let her know that that is not quite how it happened.
Needless to say, she was probably pretty embarrassed at the fact she had just been busted for her rude behavior, and been busted by a uniformed Police Officer for lying about it. This woman needed a major attitude adjustment. She finally did apologize, and my buddy told her that that was all he asked of her, and that she be more considerate to others in the future.
Hats off to him, and shame on this woman.
Really, people. Be civilized. Some people (including myself) complain how awful the ghetto trash are on the train, but we must realize that some of our rudest and most disrespectful passengers are the most highly educated and earning the most money. Just because someone is younger than you, or you make more money than them, or have a more "important" job then they do, is NOT license to be an asshole.
BARTWatch
We all know that BART is awash with annoying riders (those who cut in line, those who eat and drink on trains and in stations), rude employees, system problems, employees shooting the shit on the clock (talking on cellphones, leaving stations on the clock). Why not have a chance to bust them for it?
What do people think of this idea?
Here is a group that was created for people to take pictures of people eatting on BART and posting them. Not sure how interesting it will become, but thought it was worth mentioning.
http://www.flickr.com/groups/bartfood/pool/
Does anyone here know ANYTHING at all about ms? Is anyone a doctor or a nurse? I think bm is taking us for a ride on the sympathy train, and I'm not about to get on board. Nothing she is telling us makes sense, and I just don't want to be a sucker you know?
Who is the female officer who works in Oakland during the day. I think is very nice:) - looking! Does anybody know her or her name? Is she married. She is about 5'5 and always wears a ponytail.
MIL calls about 9:oopm, saying she's right by my house and she is comming over. I told her it was too late as all the kids were in bed. She said she was comming anyway. So I shut and locked the doors and went ot bed myself. Before I could even get into bed, there was banging on my door. Not wanting to wake the kids, I went ot answer the door. MIL was drunk, I mean swaying, slurring her words drunk. I told her to go home and sleep it off. She said she was here to get the kids and proceeded to push her way past me in the house. MIL started toward my room where the baby sleeps and Hell NO, she WAS NOT getting my son. She definately NOT going to put him in her car and drive him anywhere being drunk.
Thank you all SO MUCH to everyone who gave their kind words and support the other day. Sunday was a very hard day for me and I really needed it. I honestly didn't know whether at the end of the day we would still be together or not.
Alec Baldwin to write book on injustices to divorced dads
Alec Baldwin is not going to lie down and surrender to the furor that erupted when his obscenity-laced voice mail to his daughter was released to the media. No, he's going to write a book about the most victimized group of individuals on the planet, people dragged through our "justice" system and beaten down by the laws and by cruel judges, people alienated and disenfranchised. You guessed it: wealthy celebrity divorced fathers. Well, not necessarily just wealthy celebrity fathers, but Baldwin has said that he plans to write a book about the injustices done to divorced fathers. I'm sure there will be a chapter on Alimony. And another on child support. And a conclusion about how much it sucks when your ex-wife says you can't drive your Ferrari anymore because it's not safe for Ireland and then you turn on Cinemax that very night and see her in 9 and 1/2 Weeks and you remember how when you were fighting that one time and she told you that every time over the years she said she was visiting her mom she was really going over to Mickey-freaking-Rourke's house and how she even said once she made it with one of your brothers (although she wouldn't tell you which one---probably the one who's all Jesus-crazy now) and goddamn it Kim all you can do to keep your sanity is have another Scotch.
I need some serious help. My husband and I have been married for almost 9 years. I helped raise three out of four of his kids. All are now grown except for the youngest who is almost 17. I have no kids of my own.
Ok here is the deal H2B is out of town for work won't be back until maybe Thursday. We had SD for the weekend and an extra day so I took her to school on Monday (H2B left at 4am) so anyway SD is 6 in Kindergarten so i did not feel it was right to try and send her suitcase to school with her along with her back pack so I called H2b and he agreed it was to much for her to carry and the he would contact BM and make arrangement to get the suit case to her when he returned home. Well BM text messaged H2B today wanting the suitecase tommorow (not sure why there really isn't anything important in it) So here is my question should I text her and let her know that I have it and she can pick it up from me at work tomorrow or should I just leave it be and let him deal with her when he gets home?? BM and I have never spoken to one another. This is the first time I have ever taken sd to school and BM has informed H2B in the past that I am never aloud to pick sd up. Any suggestions????
like myself, who have found yourself plopped in the middle of a marriage with children (little OR grown up) and have little to no idea how you got there.
How do you/did you handle it?? How did you handle feeling like these people were invaders in your home and feeling guilty about such things? How do you think of someone else's child like "one of your own" when you've never had children of your own to have that example with.
so after going to court AGAIN to set up court-ordered telephone times for dh and sd10, he still doesn't get to talk to her! i told dh to go back to court but he is just so fed up with all of it. but what did he expect? that bb was just going to turn over a new leaf and try to do what is right for her daughter, and not what is soooo fun for her? hardly. she loves control, as i told dh, and this is just another way to get 'back' at him for leaving her and causing her to make such a miserable, white trash life for herself. geeesh! what sucks is that dh and myself have to go two weeks without talking to sd and it's just not fair! dh has told sd to call him whenever she wants to but either she just doesn't think about it or she isn't allowed. she has told me before that bb gets mad when she talks about her dad a lot....real nice parenting there, wouldn't you say? i try not to let my mind ponder WHY she is this way and HOW we can change it, because i've been here 8 years now and nothing i have done or said has changed anything. so why waste my breath? i don't talk to her or look at her ugly mug, so why can't i let her just fall away from my mind like any other useless info?? i know, i know, because i love my sd!!!! and i hate to think that she is becoming more and more like her twisted, scorned, white trash mother! but anyway, what should we do about the phone conversations? go back to court?
If we all put our thoughts and heads together isn't there a way to fix all of our issues, so we can make our lives better. I know for me sometimes this is a venting place other times its therapy, but I got to thinking instead of venting, lets actually do stuff to change our current situations. we all love our spouses and significant others to pieces. And there children which are there off spring are in my own opinion going thru a lot of mixed emotions.
I called Child Support today in regards to the investigation.
They are telling me they can't figure out how DK got my info. It wasn't through their office. So, I talk to BF. He does not know the name of the company she works for, but the company is one of 2 companies that make the credit cards. An company based out of Utah issues the cards & a company out of North Carolina makes the actually cards. Child support told me I should call the police.
The psycho BM is moving back into the state and wants to change visitation, that's no thte problem. The problem is that she won't give us her physical address. We're worried that she's living with her ex and they've had 3 domestic violence scenes where the police were called and my fiancee had to go and pick-up his son.
SD got a letter from HUD on Saturday, telling her that they may have an apartment for her and her son! She has an application to fill out and an appointment on Monday. Could it be that DH and I will be getting our lives back soon?
Well, ss came home from a weekend at his mom's and said that she has a new "friend" that she met on the computer. He said that his mom told him that she wasn't "interested" in this guy and that he was just her "friend". Yet, guess where she took ss and her 3 yr. old Sat. night to watch a movie? Yep, she took them to this guy's apartment. Ss said they didn't get home until around 11pm that night.
My DH and I are having a problem deciding what to do in this case. Your opinions would be greatly appreciated.
DH has custody of the children and BM has the children during the summertime in another country. She ALWAYS gives us a hard time giving us all the court ordered documentation needed. You see DH is trying to prevent an international kidnapping attempt by BM. She has to give us documentation showing her Visa, police precinct, and the travel tickets. She got that done before the deadline but not the passports. She is court ordered to pay all travel expenses and the court order states she is responible for obtaining the documentation needed for the childrens visits regarding immigration. DH is supposed to assist in the execution of the documents Ok, last summer she had the passports in her hand all summer and she saw that the passports expire in July2007. She actually sent back pictures made especially for the renewal of the passports. Well this year she had a court ordered deadline to get all the travel tickets, and the court ordered information to DH by the beginning of last month.
Hello - I am happy that this site exists as I need some advice. I am seriously dating a man with an angry ex wife. They are both angry and do not communicate. She walked out on him and took the daughter.